It’s that time of year again. Families are reuniting for the holidays, we’re spending time with loved ones we haven’t seen in a while, and if you’re hosting, you might be a little stressed trying to make sure that everything is perfect.
In my family, almost every year we’ve celebrated Christmas either at my house in Houston (with just the 4 of us), or with my parents in Dallas because of my busy retail work schedule. However, this year it will be a nice treat to host my husband’s sisters and their spouses for Christmas at our home.
My husband has 3 sisters, and I have 3 sisters, so typically, no matter where we spend our time, it’s a big family gathering when everyone is present.
Preparing for your in-laws to come in town can be a daunting task for some, perhaps it even drives you to grab that bottle of wine you’ve been saving and drink the whole thing (… am I the only one that’s done that? Oops!) Thankfully I’ve been blessed with super sweet sister-in-laws, but just in case you weren’t so lucky or you just need some advice to kick you in gear, I’m sharing my holiday hosting guide just for you!
1. I can only be me.
I am a firm believer in not changing who you are just because company is coming. Am I a great cook? NO! So do I stress about having picture perfect homemade dinners every night for everyone? Hell to the no! And I’m pretty transparent about that with anyone that knows me. What I am though, is a great host. Play off your strengths. And don’t let the things you aren’t so great at get you down.
2. More wine please … or food (or both).
In my family we love great food and a great cocktail. So when it’s time to gather, there’s never a shortage of either. Know your audience, what does your family love to do? I’ll be quizzing my husband to make sure we are on the same page with hosting his family, BUT I do have high hopes that it will involve great food and a great drink!
3. Plan ahead. You are the FUN Captain!
As the fun captain, make sure that you staying up to date on all the happenings in your city that your guests may be interested in. Every family is different during the holidays, some are just fine hanging out at home, some are doing last minute shopping up until the very last hours, and others are jet setting around the city getting into all kinds of craziness. Whatever your cup of tea is, make sure that you are prepared and have a great plan.
4. Don’t talk about it. Do not engage. Pour more wine.
You know, that one topic that might really set things off … Just don’t. I know that seems obvious, but if there’s always that one person that doesn’t catch the hint or the nudge under the table to please stop. That person in my family is my dad, but thankfully he is absolutely hilarious so he usually gets away with being completely unfiltered. If your person is not so funny, and painfully awkward, refer to number 2, and drink up (or eat up) buttercup.
5. Enjoy each other.
As our lives continue to evolve, we find ourselves moving to different cities, experiencing different challenges, as well as amazing opportunities. This time of year is the perfect time to relax, reconnect, and just enjoy each other’s company. I plan to do just that!
Are you hosting this year? Any other tips that you’d share?
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Haha i LOVE this! Just what i needed before endless xmas dinners with the inlaws, more wine for sure please!
haha number 4 is the best advice..I know that tension all too well when someone brings up something they really shouldn’t. Also love the part about being true to yourself. I’m never going to have a spotless home, but we will have some darn tasty food and plenty of wine to go around 🙂
Ha! I have found that just letting go of some of the control tends to be the best bet for me, oh and wine never hurts either. 😉
These tips are both hilarious, and super helpful! One tip that I also follow when hosting anyone during the holidays or throwing a get together is to have emergency gifts in case someone unexpected shows up and brings gifts, so that you don’t look unprepared or it is awkward! Easy gifts that anyone would enjoy like candles, tea, coffee, chocolates, restaurant gift cards…etc
I just knew this post would be hilarious from the title. I am nowhere near marriage but I love your philosophy… more wine! Unfortunately, my Uncle passed a week ago and getting some of my relatives together can be a tiring task. I hope you have a wonderful time with your family. I live in Texas now myself.
I’m so with you when it comes to planning ahead of time for when guests come and want to visit a few places, this is a really great reminder. -Jocelyne from resonatecreations.com